Words of wisdom : Osho on Parenting

An unexceptional parenting advice by Osho. Live and let live.

Forwarded by : Honey Jones || Source : Osho

Unconditional Love

You will be gone soon but the children will be here. And nobody can manage anybody else’s life. Though they are with you, yet they belong not to you. You may give them your love but not your thoughts for they have their own thoughts. You may house their bodies but not their souls, for their souls dwell in the house of tomorrow, which you cannot visit even in your dreams. God will take care. It is none of your business to be too concerned. Whatsoever we can do, we do, but one should not hanker about things going the way you want. That is very egoistic.

You have given birth to a child, but once he is out of the womb he is free of you. First he depended for his breath on you when he was in the womb. Then he will take his own breath.

You don’t say,
‘What are you doing? Are you trying to be free of me? Trying to be independent?’

You feel happy that your child is breathing.

First he will take milk from you, then one day he will start eating on his own.

First he will go on clinging to your apron and then one day he will leave it.

You will be happy because the child is growing, becoming mature. Then finally one day he falls in love with a woman.
He has found his woman, so he will go on his own way.

Bless them, and whatsoever happens they have to find their own life and their own meaning to life.

Now you are free.Just try to find your meaning, your life, your goals, and devote the few days that are left to the search of the ultimate.

Don’t be concerned with ordinary things. I have never seen a single parent who is happy about their children. I have heard a Jewish joke..

A Jewish woman died and the first thing she asked when she got to heaven was if she could see Mary. So it was arranged. She went to see Mary and said, ”I have only one question to ask. You must be the happiest woman in the world. Your son is worshipped by millions.” Mary said, ”What! I always wanted him to become a doctor”.

Nobody is ever happy. Even the father of Buddha was not happy. He was very very annoyed because his son turned out to be a beggar. He became a sannyasi and the father was hoping he would become an emperor. He crushed all his father’s hopes.

One thing is certain that the child is not here to fulfill your expectations.
The child is here with his own destiny, and he will unfold his own destiny. You are trying somehow to direct his destiny and that is going to be frustrating. So if the child becomes a thief or a murderer, of course the parents feel bad, and it looks logical.

But even if he becomes a Jesus or a Buddha, then too they feel frustrated
because they have their own ideas and the children try to do their own thing.

Accept it and bless them. They have to find their own ways

Who are we to interfere? And how can we?

Pray for them but leave them on their own. You try to grow yourself.

Author: Priyadarshini Somasundar

Priyadarshini is an Engineering graduate in Electronics and Communication. She used work for Dell, Later shifted to Chennai after marriage and worked in Ericsson as system analyst. I have always been passionate about our tradition and curious to know about our ancient wisdom and practices, which made me join this group.

Hanuman : The true hero

Forwarded by : Rakhi || Source : Unknown

Hanuman
When Valmiki completed his Ramayana, Narada wasn’t impressed. ‘It is good, but Hanuman’s is better’, he said.

‘That monkey has written the Ramayana too!’, Valmiki didn’t like this at all, and wondered whose Ramayana was better. So he set out to find Hanuman.

In Kadali-vana, grove of plantains, he found Ramayana inscribed on seven broad leaves of a banana tree.

He read it and found it to be perfect. The most exquisite choice of grammar and vocabulary, metre and melody. He couldn’t help himself. He started to cry.

‘Is it so bad?’ asked Hanuman
‘No, it is so good’, said Valmiki
‘Then why are you crying?’asked Hanuman.

‘Because after reading your Ramayana no one will read my Ramayana,’ replied Valmiki.

Hearing this Hanuman simply tore up the seven banana leaves stating,     ” Now no one will ever read Hanuman’s Ramayana.”

Hanuman said, ‘You need your Ramayana more than I need mine. You wrote your Ramayana so that the world remembers Valmiki; I wrote my Ramayana so that I remember Ram.’

At that moment he realized how he had been consumed by the desire for validation through his work.

He had not used the work to liberate himself from the fear of invalidation. He had not appreciated the essence of Ram’s tale to unknot his mind.
His Ramayana was a product of ambition; but Hanuman’s Ramayana was a product of affection.
That’s why Hanuman’s Ramayana sounded so much better. Valmiki realized that “Greater than Ram….. is the idea of Ram!!!! ”
( राम से बड़ा राम का नाम ).

This story tells us that…. There are people like Hanuman who don’t want to be famous. They just do their jobs and fulfill their purpose.
So lets not be like Valmiki, thinking our ”Ramayana” is the best.

There are many unsung “Hanumans” too…in our life…

Author: Priyadarshini Somasundar

Priyadarshini is an Engineering graduate in Electronics and Communication. She used work for Dell, Later shifted to Chennai after marriage and worked in Ericsson as system analyst. I have always been passionate about our tradition and curious to know about our ancient wisdom and practices, which made me join this group.

Thinai khichadi/ pongal (Foxtail millet)

Ingredients:

Foxtail millet : 1/4 cup
Moong dal : 2 table spoon
Shallots : 3 nos
Tomato : half ripe
Carrot : few diced pieces
Green peas: few nos
Jeera : half tsp
Pepper : 2 or 3 nos
Garlic : 2 pods
Dry chilli : tiny piece
Desi ghee 1 spoon
Salt as per taste

Method:

Soak moong dal n foxtail millet for half an hour.
Keep onion n tomatoes ready.
Cut the carrot into small dices.You can add any vegetables of your choice.
Add ghee to the cooker, once hot add jeera, pepper n allow it to splutter.
Add onion and fry for a min.
Add tomatoes n garlic fry for a min.
Add carrot n green peas n fry in low flame for a minute.
Finally add the soaked n rinsed millet n dal mixture..
Add water accordingly to the consistency you desire.
For kids, if it is a bit watery it is good else it will turn hard before you complete the task of feeding😬
Close the cooker and allow 5-6 whistles..
Yummy khichadi is ready.

Foxtail millet  can be substituted with other Millets.

Author: Priyadarshini Somasundar

Priyadarshini is an Engineering graduate in Electronics and Communication. She used work for Dell, Later shifted to Chennai after marriage and worked in Ericsson as system analyst. I have always been passionate about our tradition and curious to know about our ancient wisdom and practices, which made me join this group.

Ginger massage for Kidney failure

A boon for all kidney failure patients . A miraculous ,simple treatment which will help restore the kidney functions.

Forwarded by : Shwetha SG || Source : Unknown

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Ginger Massage best for Kidney failure, dialysis patients.
Thiruvananthapuram: India is gifted with rich sources of traditional medicine which require documentation, conservation and scientific validation.

This ginger therapy was followed from the book, Ayurveda Secrets of healing by Maya Tiwari. This was introduced by S. Pari, a software engineer,for his father G. Shanmugam who suffered from kidney failure. The post on youtube claims that it restored the failed kidney function to the normal level and he stopped dialysis.

Procedure for Ginger Massage

1. Take 125 g of washed ginger and cut them into pieces and grind in a mixie.

2. Put this crushed ginger in a white cloth and tie it.

3. Boil about 3 litres of water. When bubbles come, put the cloth tied ginger into the boiled water. Close the hot pot with a plate.

4. Keep the stove in sim (low flame) for 20-30 minutes.

5. Put off the stove and leave the pot in the closed condition for 5 minutes.

6. Bring the ginger water pot near the patient and ask the patient to lie down on his stomach exposing the back. (Stomach down posture)

7. Soak a small Turkish towel (Bath towel) in the hot ginger water, squeeze it partially and spread the towel over the lower portion of the patient’s back.

8. Remove the towel when it cools (or dried) out to warm stage and squeeze it into another vessel. Again soak it in the hot ginger water and put it on the patient’s back.

Please note every time before putting the towel on patient’s back, close the ginger vessel immediately to avoid loss of heat.

9. Repeat the above steps 7 & 8 till the water becomes warm for about 20-30 minutes.

10. When the massaging is over, wipe the back and gently rub the massaged area with 4 -5 drops of Gingili oil (Sesame Oil).

11. Discard the used ginger and water.

*Advised to monitor Urea,Creatinine, Hemoglobulin level in Blood every month.
*Monitor also the Colour, Odour and Volume of Urine.

Your urine output will increase and clinically you feel energetic too
We will appreciate if you circulate this to others, if found useful.

This is a non-profit service disseminated by Shanmugam Foundation and for further details contact by email at ginger.uses@gmail.com, curetrust@gmail.com.

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Author: Priyadarshini Somasundar

Priyadarshini is an Engineering graduate in Electronics and Communication. She used work for Dell, Later shifted to Chennai after marriage and worked in Ericsson as system analyst. I have always been passionate about our tradition and curious to know about our ancient wisdom and practices, which made me join this group.

Mixed Millets Health mix

Ingredients:

Finger millet -200gms
Traditional pearl millet -200gms
Kodo rice – 100gms
Little millet rice- 100 gms
Foxtail rice-100gms
Barnyard rice -100gms
White jowar-100gms
Maize -100gms
Greengram- 10gms
Groundnut -10gms
Almonds- 5-6 nos
Cashew -5 -6 nos
Cardamom – 8 or 9

Method:

Dry roast all the ingredients separately except cardamom until it turns light brown and till u get a good aroma.
Get it grinded in the mill to get fine powder.
To make the porridge :
Take the required amount of health mix powder and mix it with water without any lumps..in low flame , stir the mix until the desired consistency.. U can add jaggery or palm sugar for sweeter version else it can be had warm with buttermilk n salt.

Recipe courtesy Nachal.

Author: Priyadarshini Somasundar

Priyadarshini is an Engineering graduate in Electronics and Communication. She used work for Dell, Later shifted to Chennai after marriage and worked in Ericsson as system analyst. I have always been passionate about our tradition and curious to know about our ancient wisdom and practices, which made me join this group.

Simple and effective home remedies for BP,Diabetics,Acidity,Headache and Cholestrol

Forwarded by : Swati Raval || Source : Unknown

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Natural Therapy For Headaches ! In about 5 minutes, your headache will go…

The nose has a left and a right side. We use both to inhale and exhale. Actually they are different. You’ll be able to feel the difference.

The right side represents the sun. The left side represents the moon.

During a headache, try to close your right nose and use your left nose to breathe.In about 5 mins, your headache will go.

If you feel tired, just reverse, close your left nose and breathe through your right nose. After a while, you will feel your mind is refreshed.

Right side belongs to ‘hot’, so it gets heated up easily. Left side belongs to ‘cold’.

Most females breathe with their left noses, so they get “cooled off” faster. Most of the guys breathe with their right noses, they get worked up.

Do you notice, the moment you awake, which side breathes better?
Left or right ?
If left is better, you will feel tired. So, close your left nose and use your right nose for breathing. You will feel refreshed quickly.

Do you suffer from continual headaches?
Try out this breathing therapy.

Close your right nose and breathe through your left nose. Your headaches will be gone. Continued the exercise for one month.

Why not give it a try…. a natural therapy without medication.

CURE FOR ACIDITY
Acidity, it is said, is worse than Cancer. It is one of the most common disease people encounter in their daily life. The home remedy for Acidity is Raw Grains of Rice.

Process:
1. Take 8 – 10 grains of raw uncooked rice

2. Swallow it with water before having your breakfast or eating anything in the morning

3. Do this for 21 days to see effective results and continuously for 3 months to eliminate acidity from the body

Cure:
Reduces acid levels in the body and makes you feel better by the day.

CURE FOR CHOLESTEROL
Cholesterol problem accompanies with Hypertension and Heart Problems. This is also one of the common problems in people who have High Blood Pressure and Diabetes. The home remedy for Cholesterol problem is RAW SUPARI.

Process:
1. Take Raw Supari (Betel Nut that is not flavoured) and slice them or make pieces of the same.
2. Chew it for about 20 – 40 minutes after every meal.
3. Spit it out.

Cure:
When you chew the supari, the saliva takes in the juice that is generated and this acts like a Blood Thinner. Once your blood becomes free flowing, it brings down the pressure in the blood flow, thereby reducing Blood Pressure too.

CURE FOR BLOOD PRESSURE:
One of the simple home remedy cure for Blood Pressure is Methi Seeds or Fenugreek Seeds.

Process:
1. Take a pinch of Raw Fenugreek Seeds, about 8 – 10 seeds.
2. Swallow it with water before taking your breakfast, every morning.

Cure:
The seeds of Fenugreek are considered good to reduce the blood pressure.

CURE FOR DIABETES
There are two home remedies for Diabetes. One is Ladies Finger and the other is Black Tea.

BLACK TEA: Due to high medication, the organ that is worst affeccted is the Kidney. It has been observed that Black Tea (tea without milk, sugar or lemon) is good for the Kidney. Hence a cup of black tea every morning is highly advisable.

Process:
1. Boil water along with the tea leaves (any tea leaves will do).
2. Drink the concoction without addingmilk, sugar or lemon.

Cure:
Black Tea will help in enhancing the function of the kidney, thereby not affecting it more.

LADIES FINGER or OKRA:
Ladies finger is considered to be a good home medicine for diabetes.

Process:
1. Slit the ladies finger into 2 halves vertically and soak it in water overnight.
2. The next morning, remove the ladies fingers and drink the water, before eating your breakfast.

Cure:
After the ladies fingers are soaked overnight in the water, you can observe that the water becomes sticky in the morning. This sticky water is considered to be good for people who suffer from Diabetes.

First follow it,if you see the results please Pass it on…save this in ur notes or wherever so u can read it again.Many people may benefitted from this…

Author: Priyadarshini Somasundar

Priyadarshini is an Engineering graduate in Electronics and Communication. She used work for Dell, Later shifted to Chennai after marriage and worked in Ericsson as system analyst. I have always been passionate about our tradition and curious to know about our ancient wisdom and practices, which made me join this group.

Parenting tips

“It is not what you do for your chidren, but what you have taught them to do for themselves, that will make them successful human beings” – Ann Landers

Forwarded by : Satya || Source : Unknown

Take my hand

Dear parents, give your finger to support your child not your entire hand to hold for life time else they never be able to survive without you. If you want to make your child independent and confident in future, follow the below steps from now.

  1. Don’t feed your child let him eat by himself. Let them starve to develop sense of hunger.
  2. Let them wear their clothes on their own, you can help a little. Let them pack garden bag.
  3. Let them to choose which color things they want. This helps them to develop decision making power in them.
  4. Let them pack their school bag, if they forget anything let them face situation so from very young age they become very particular.
  5. In school if they have not completed their books, please don’t call other parents, but tell the child to copy from friends’ book next day. This creates realization as to how it feels if they don’t complete the books and will make them responsible.
  6. Never ever sit with your child when he is doing homework otherwise even in 10th standard also child will need your help he /she will never develop confidence.
  7. Whenever you make monthly budget involve your child. Discuss what is your income, how much you need to save? Why you need to save? .This develops planning sense and awareness in the child from a very young age and definitely he/she will never do unnecessary expense.
  8. Let them make their own decisions in set boundary, it develops freedom.

Author: Priyadarshini Somasundar

Priyadarshini is an Engineering graduate in Electronics and Communication. She used work for Dell, Later shifted to Chennai after marriage and worked in Ericsson as system analyst. I have always been passionate about our tradition and curious to know about our ancient wisdom and practices, which made me join this group.

A convincing explanation on Neivedhyam

Even when I was young I used to wonder about Neivedhyam to God and have asked my parents.. Will God come and eat and even waited curiously to see HIM in action. But then my parents were not able to give me an acceptable explanation. I was just advised to have BELIEF.

Forwarded by : Sapna Rangarajan || Source : Unknown

Offerings...

Here is a very good explanation with which we can convince our kids…     A Guru-Sishya conversation:

The sishya who doesn’t believe in God, asked his Guru this:                 “Does God accept our ‘Neivedhyam’? If God eats away the ‘prasadham’ then from where can we distribute it to others? Does God really consume the ‘prasadham’, Guruji?”.The Guru did not say anything. Instead, asked the student to prepare for classes.

That day, the Guru was teaching his class about the ‘Upanishads’.He taught them the ‘mantra’:”poornamadham, poornamidham, poornasya poornaadaaya….” and explained that: ‘everything came out from “Poorna or Totality.” (of Ishavasya Upanishad).Later, everyone was instructed to practice the mantra by-heart.

So, all the boys started practicing. After a while, the Guru came back and asked that very student who had raised his doubt about Neivedya to recite the mantra without seeing the book, which they did.

Now the Guru gave a smile and asked this particular sishya who didn’t believe in God. Did each of you really by-heart everything as it is in the book? The sishya said: “Yes!! Guruji”, I’ve recited whatever is written as in the book.  The Guru asked: If you have taken every word into your mind then how come the words are still there in the book?

He then explained: “The words in your mind are in the SOOKSHMA STHITI (unseen form). The words in the book are there in the STOOLASTHITI (seen form).

God too is in the ‘Sooksma sthiti’. The offerings made to Him is done in ‘Stoola sthiti’. Thus, God takes the food in ‘Sookshmam’.

Hence, the food doesn’t become any less in quantity. While GOD takes it in the Sookshma sthiti, we take it as ‘prasadam’ in ‘stoola sthiti’.Hearing this the sishya felt guilty for his disbelief in God and surrendered himself to his GURU.

Author: Priyadarshini Somasundar

Priyadarshini is an Engineering graduate in Electronics and Communication. She used work for Dell, Later shifted to Chennai after marriage and worked in Ericsson as system analyst. I have always been passionate about our tradition and curious to know about our ancient wisdom and practices, which made me join this group.

Rules for staying happy in your journey of life

This a very beautiful article written by Late Khushwant Singh. Happy reading.. Stay Happy!!

Forwarded by : Rakhi || Source : Unknown

Happiness

How To Live & Die

I’ve often thought about what it is that makes people happy—what one has to do in order to achieve happiness.

  1. First and foremost is good health. If you do not enjoy good health, you can never be happy. Any ailment, however trivial, will deduct something from your happiness.
  2. Second, a healthy bank balance. It need not run into crores, but it should be enough to provide for comforts, and there should be something to spare for recreation—eating out, going to the movies, travel and holidays in the hills or by the sea. Shortage of money can be demoralising. Living on credit or borrowing is demeaning and lowers one in one’s own eyes.
  3. Third, your own home. Rented places can never give you the comfort or security of a home that is yours for keeps. If it has garden space, all the better. Plant your own trees and flowers, see them grow and blossom, and cultivate a sense of kinship with them.
  4. Fourth, an understanding companion, be it your spouse or a friend. If you have too many misunderstandings, it robs you of your peace of mind. It is better to accept the differences than to be quarrelling all the time.
  5. Fifth, stop envying those who have done better than you in life—risen higher, made more money, or earned more fame. Envy can be corroding; avoid comparing yourself with others.
  6. Sixth, do not allow people to descend on you for gossip. By the time you get rid of them, you will feel exhausted and poisoned by their gossip-mongering.
  7. Seventh, cultivate a hobby or two that will fulfill you—gardening, reading, writing, painting, playing or listening to music. Going to clubs or parties to get free drinks, or to meet celebrities, is a criminal waste of time. It’s important to concentrate on something that keeps you occupied meaningfully.
  8. Eighth, every morning and evening devote 20 minutes to meditation or introspection. In the mornings, 10 minutes should be spent in keeping the mind absolutely still, and for listing the things you have to do that day. In the evenings, five minutes should be set aside to keep the mind still and 10 to go over the tasks you had intended to do.
  9. Ninth, don’t lose your temper. Try not to be short-tempered, or vengeful. Even when a friend has been rude, just move on.
  10. Above all, when the time comes to go, one should go like a Person without any regret or grievance against anyone.

Author: Priyadarshini Somasundar

Priyadarshini is an Engineering graduate in Electronics and Communication. She used work for Dell, Later shifted to Chennai after marriage and worked in Ericsson as system analyst. I have always been passionate about our tradition and curious to know about our ancient wisdom and practices, which made me join this group.

The Holy Grass : Darbha

Forwarded by : Roopa Hebbar || Source : Unknown

Havan

Why Dharba (holy grass) is used as ring during on our auspicious and inauspicious occasions !!..
This article is on one of the practices widely used by Indian Brahmins all over using a Holy Grass named Darbha, Dharbham or Dharbai.

The botanical name is Eragrostis cynosuroides and in Hindi they call this as Kus or Kusha. Brahmins use this Dharbai grass in all functions, auspicious or inauspicious. A performing person needs to wear a ring made of this Dharbham. But many have lost the reason of why it is to be used in the first place.

What I learnt from my father is proved to be accurately correct by a Medicine Practitioner. A Medical Practitioner once visited my home. When the topic turned to many subjects, I needed to tell him about the Holy Grass named Dharbham. When I told him about the usage and the values, he could not just believe my words. So, he took out a bunch of the Dharbham from me, went straight to the clinic to take an X-ray of his palm, by covering his hand with the Dharbham.

To his utter surprise, he found that the grass absorbed about 60% of the (X-ray) radiation!

When the so powerful X-ray radiation can be absorbed by the Holy Grass, why can it not absorb the ill-radiations spread over the atmosphere?
At the time of Solar eclipse or Lunar eclipse,our elders used to keep this Holy grass in all the food containers in the house to protect from radiation of eclipses.

While chanting and reciting some Vedic phrases and verses, one needs to wear a ring made of Dharbham on his right hand ring finger. This is most essential, while performing all the rituals, such as Agni Santhanam, Thiru-Aaradhanam, all sorts of Havans known as Homam etc.

The count of leaves depends upon the function that is held viz. for some functions related to death only single leaf Dharbham is used;                       for auspicious and daily routine a ring made of two leaves is used;           for inauspicious but not death related (i.e.AmavasyaTharppanam,Pithru Pooja etc) a three-leaf Dharbham ring is used. And for the Temple Prayer and Pooja, a four-leaf Dharbham ring is used.

Also, when a fire ritual known as Agni Santhana is performed, these Dharbham are spread all the four sides of the Agni Kundam. Also, during the Eclipse time, these Dharbham are used to cover all food items to protect them from the harmful ultra violet radiation.

Whenever any function is held, firstly they perform a site-cleansing act known as “Sudhhi Punyaahavachanam”. While reciting the selective versus, they hold the Dharbham bunch in their hand and
placing the tip point of it over the vessel containing water. Thus the recited vibration values are absorbed by water in the vessel through the Dharbham.

They found that the Holy Grass known as Dharbham has the highest value in conducting the phonetic vibrations through its tip. Later, they sprinkle the Holy water at every nook and corner of the place, where the function is held. A Dharbham without the tip is considered of no value, as the conductor-type value is lost in it.”

Our Rishis were of  greater knowledge than today’s scientists ,  today’s science is struggling to understand the inventions of ancient Great Rishis..
“Let us save our ancient science and our great heritage ”

P.S : Forwarded by a research fellow and known fellow of our Hindu rituals

Author: Priyadarshini Somasundar

Priyadarshini is an Engineering graduate in Electronics and Communication. She used work for Dell, Later shifted to Chennai after marriage and worked in Ericsson as system analyst. I have always been passionate about our tradition and curious to know about our ancient wisdom and practices, which made me join this group.